I've been blessed with some really amazing friends. Like this one who posted this not too long ago. She also posted this and I've since been formulating my response.
As a bride-in-the-making, I've experienced so many awkward moments. I wasn't as shocked by the "when are you thinking about starting a family" question as I was by the "so.... are you a virgin?" inquiry by a lady who doesn't really know me (in my opinion) --- maybe in her mind, we're really on better terms than I realize.
But - I digress. So, as aforementioned blogger friend suggested I am posting some things I really appreciate hearing. Trust me, they're needed. Just ask my friends who've been around for the countless "she thinks I'll be a horrible bride/wife/chef/mother/sex goddess" breakdowns since Gibralter was laid to rest upon my left hand.
-- "You will make a lovely bride!" Note: lovely is the key term here as opposed to beautiful. Beautiful is reserved for pregnant women, super models (the REAL ones like Cindy Crawford) and sunsets.
-- tell me about your engagement/early months of marriage (especially if you've been married for 15+ years!). Personally, I love stories. But, I've already seen marriages crumble that I stood for. And people wonder why kids my age live together. Millennials don't like to fail. And that "D" word is failure.
-- ask me about me. Yes, as if being a bride isn't already about me me me me. But the other ME still exists. The girl who has a career, and amazing best friends, and interests in quirky history books, who goes to the library alone on Thursday nights for a Date Night with herself. I am more than a bride-and-groom pair. Don't forget about me.
-- tell our parents "what great kids we are" when I am within earshot. Even if you think it's a lie. They need to be congratulated on raising two competent, gainfully employed children. That is very rare these days. Very.
Tuesday, January 01, 2008
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IT IS FLATTERING!
I like the one about "ask about ME" - it is so true! I remember when I was engaged, I was thinking, can't we talk about something other than my wedding plans?
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